Being A Mother
It is 3rd of May 2009 approx time 9am.
Well it happened again, I woke up to a vision an inspiration to write these words as was given to me by the higher beings.
By that wording I mean the following but exactly who or what they are I don't really know, that's why I word it "Higher Beings"
Now these messages can come from any one of these, meaning
God, Spiritual Guides, Native American Ancestors, Guardian Angels, Any one of the many old souls within me.
I don't really know for a fact what to label this or what title to give them; anyways I need to get on with this writing.
I guess they have been busy just as I have been.
Now I am bound to miss a lot of things that we go through as mothers.
So I am sitting here to start to write about mothers from the very beginning.
We start off when we find out we are pregnant and having this wonderful human being growing inside our body.
It is such a feeling that only mothers can ever experience because it is inside our bodies.
And yes there are the other advantages as well.
We find out we are having a baby and most of us are extremely happy to be having this wonderful child to be.
We go through the stages of our baby growing inside of us, the kicks, the bumps and the morning sickness, the nausea, for most of us, the running to the bathroom a lot because the baby is on our bladder.
Oh we can't forget the stretch marks as our belly stretches to fit this beautiful little baby inside our belly, but we don't care, as long as our baby is comfortable and growing healthy, that is all that matters to mothers.
And yes our breasts grow larger to feed our babies and then there are the times that in some circumstances we leak our milk that we are producing for our baby.
The food cravings, yes don't forget the late night ones that mothers to be have.
Trying to get some sleep and comfortably I might add, with this belly growing daily and the baby kicking, what an wonderful feeling that is, the kicking of life, its like the baby is saying hey I am down here you know, but it is just a friendly reminder that your baby IS there.
There is much to feel when you become a mother and the nine months carrying your baby.
Hoping and praying that everything is all ok, the tests you go for just to make sure your baby is healthy, and then you pray and hope that you go full term or at least long enough to have a healthy baby.
There is the ultrasounds oh my the drinking of all that water and then you have to hold it in, heavens to betsy, well for me it use to hurt me like crazy, but in the end it was all worth it, I can hear every mother saying yes you are right about that.
Our wardrobe had to change, our home will change, plans change, our life is about to have a big, little change.
The emotions that our bodies go through and all the tears for no apparent reason, just because.
Did I mention the back aches? Yes we can't forget them.
But all this so far is worth it, to so many mothers world wide.
Well now it is getting time to bring this bundle of joy into this big wide world we live in.
You start to get contractions and oh my they do tingle just a tad and they get closer and closer and now you're rushing to the hospital to give birth to your baby.
Guess what, here comes more and much stronger pains, the labour, the screaming for some, they yelling at your partner this can go on for many hours, the sweating, the panting and the doctor tells you its time, then you have to push, well mothers know what happens after that, so I wont type any further, but by now we have this beautiful baby laying on your body from you giving birth, the crying for the very first time, you check all fingers and toes, you ask the doctor is your baby ok.
You are tired from all the long hours of labour, or short hours.
So this is just the start of what I call a wonderful life adventure with your new baby, girl or boy.
You learn many new things in the hospital and then you finally go home with your new baby.
There is so much you just don't know but you learn as you go along and as mothers we make mistakes because you know something, we wasn't a mother before you came along.
But we learnt pretty quickly.
Being a mother is a whole lot of labels/titles.
We breast feed you, we change smelly nappies, we bath you, we cuddle you when you cry, we cuddle you when your happy, we nurture you, we love you, we try to make you happy, we play with you, we watch you sleeping soundly, we watch you grow each day, we go through your teething stages, your colic stage, we feed you, we go through the terrible 2 stages and each year along.
We help you when you hurt yourself, we are there when someone else hurts you, we protect you like no one else can.
We are there for you when you are sick, we go without our sleep, and many of us neglect ourselves just to do the right thing by you as a good mother will.
We dress you nicely, we teach you in all your stages of your new life to be.
We take you to playgroup and then pre school and then our baby has grown up so fast your in kindergarten, then primary, then high school and now your off to college, university and now your married and you have become a mother yourself (if you're a female that is).
Yes I know males can be mums too.
We help you meet new friends and old ones too.
We stop whatever we are doing for you.
We worry about you constantly, we love you unconditionally, and we respect you.
There is also the Sports, the girls, the boys, afternoon activities
There is the boyfriend/girlfriend stages, then your engaged and married.
There is also the mother that was to be.
This I can write about from personal experience and yes we all experience many different emotions and feelings here.
I have lost 3 children, 2 died by miscarriage at 4 & 1/2 months, and one who lived for 9 days at 7 months and he died in my arms.
This is why my 2 boys are SO special to me; they are my lucky children who managed to survive.
And I would stop the world for them, well I sort of did..i mean I stopped everything I was doing for them and I still would do it today.
There is just so much I can write about being a mother,
However I thought I would ad other people's stories, words of what they felt being a mother is
The following is what I researched on Being A Mother.
I found some memorials as well.
The Motherhood Place
There are many pages from this link
Some Thoughts On A Mothers Role
Poem
A Mothers Role
Being A Mother Means
Quotes about Mothers
More for you to read
A Mother's Role is Timeless
Mommy Can You Hear Me
What Being a Mother Means to Me… from Celebrities on Oprah
Celebrities on Oprah Share Lessons Learned from Mother
Shakti, the Divine Mother - Deepak Chopra's Mother's Day Letter
Being A Mother Means
Mother Songs
Mothers day songs and heaps of other stuff, take a look
Mothers Day Songs
In Loving Memory
Things My Mother Taught Me
What is a Mother
"For What Is a Mother Responsible?"
